A couple of weeks ago I hosted a card and games party at my place in Baltimore. Just something to bring friends together after the holiday bustle died down and have some fun on a long winter’s night.
A mix of about 15 to 20 guys. From their late 20s to late 50s. Short, tall, built and not so built.
One of the guys I invited was a muscular, brown-skinned, masculine bottom named “Daniel.” Daniel has the body of Adonis and an outrageous booty. How do I know? I’ve sampled it myself but for the past few years I have kept it on the friendship tip because he has a great physique but not much of a personality beyond that.
Some of the guys went to my TV room upstairs to watch the NFL playoffs. And Daniel followed them up.
But wouldn’t you know all he did was pull out his cellphone and start trolling Jack’d and Adam4Adam, completely forgetting guys that were around him.
Another buddy of mine “Byron” came downstairs walked over to me.
“That guy upstairs is really rude. He is barely talking at all and had the nerve to be on a hookup app. I have Jack’d on my phone too and wouldn’t you know he hit me up and asked was I at the party. I didn’t answer because that’s weird.”
“Wow, and all these guys in here why would he have to do that?” I asked Byron.
I walked up to Daniel and invited him to play a game of Spades, or perhaps join us in Dominoes or a round of Taboo.
“I’m not very good at cards man,” he said.
“Are you shy?”
“Yeah, a little.”
But yet he could go online and troll for sex. Has technology — our smartphones and tablets and hookup apps and websites — taken away our skills and meeting men in real life? Older gay men I know say they miss the days when guys mingled in real-life bars and discos or had to go to bookstores to get hookups.
Technology has reduced us to just a dick or a piece of ass, they say.
Daniel really missed out — he likely went home without getting one number. Yet three couples met at my party and went on subsequent dates to the movies, breakfast dinner and yes some sex too. And they didn’t need an app to do it.